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Kinky Sex Q & A’s from Published Books
- What if we discover some kinky thing we really like, and we become addicted? (click here)
- Can you explain this whole leather/whips/S&M/spanking thing? (click here)
Kinky sex can be defined as sex acts that fall outside of the conventional. Such acts often include Bondage, Discipline, Dominance, Submission, Sadism and Masochism (BDSM), forms of fantasy role-playing, fetishes, group sex and exhibitionism.
Excluded from Kink are acts usually considered conventional, like loving touch, romantic talk, kissing, vaginal penetration, masturbation, and oral sex.
The sourced articles below should provide more information for those curious about everything from role-playing to being tied up.
- Why I Find A Formal Workplace Kinky
“It was fascinating to me to see all the personal and professional dynamics in a space like that, the closest I’ve been to the corporate world. I couldn’t help viewing the workplace through the lens of sex work. Having a director felt, to me, like having a sub/dom relationship; to be watched closely by someone all day and then told what to do by them is the height of kink. Everyone else told me that was normal though, to have a boss bossing you around, and no one else was excited by it.”
Tilly Lawless, prospectmagazine.co.uk, 7/31/2025 - Vanilla Or Pistachio? Sexual Satisfaction In Kinky And BDSM Sexuality: An Exploratory Study
“Results … Individuals engaging in kinky or BDSM practices have a more sex-positive attitude, communicate more effectively, and give less importance to achieving orgasm when they define their sexual activity as satisfying. Furthermore, regardless of reaching orgasm, ‘kinky’ people reported higher levels of sexual satisfaction compared to individuals engaging in ‘vanilla’ sexuality. Moreover, people who reported sexual difficulties showed lower levels of sexual satisfaction compared to those without such difficulties. However, among individuals who reported sexual difficulties but had kinky sexuality, the average level of sexual satisfaction is significantly higher than people engaged in a more conventional form of sexuality.”
A Farolfi, G Fioravanti, academic.oup.com, 5/9/2025 - Why Gen Z Is the Kinkiest Generation Yet
“It is well documented that today’s young adults are having less sex than generations past. However, while they may be less sexually active overall, the sex that they are having is different in a key way: It’s kinkier.”
Reviewed by Davia Sills, psychologytoday.com, 9/4/2024 - Want To Know How Kinky You Are? This New Scientific Scale Can Tell You
“In the realm of human sexuality, researchers have long grappled with how to accurately capture the complexities of non-normative sexual practices, often referred to under the umbrella of ‘kink.’ Now, a team of scientists has developed and validated a new tool designed to measure various aspects of kink engagement — the Kink Orientation Scale. The study detailing this work was recently published in The Journal of Sex Research.”
Eric W. Dolan, psypost.org, 8/10/2024 - When It Comes To ‘Vanilla Sex,’ No Two People Taste The Same Flavor
“I received 4,242 responses, from people aged 18 to 71 living everywhere from middle America to Australia, according to their self-reporting. I asked three demographic questions: age, location, and gender. I then asked two free response questions: ‘What sexual activities do you consider *vanilla*?’ and ‘What sexual activities do you consider *kinky* or NOT *vanilla*?’ … I didn’t ask for people’s race, sexual orientation, religion, or marital status—all things that can impact opinions on sex. But I did get a lens with which to view how people beyond my narrow set think about sex now.”
Anna Iovine, vice.com, 2/14/2019
- 1 In 5 Of Your Friends Is Getting Kinky — Should You Be Too?
“While the word kink doesn’t have a medical or technical definition, it’s generally any sexual practice that falls out of convention — commonly considered acts such as loving touch, romantic talk, kissing, vaginal penetration, masturbation, and oral sex.”
Sarah Aswell, Medically reviewed by Janet Brito, PhD, LCSW, CST, healthline.com, 12/11/2017
- 11 Of The Most Common Sexual Fetishes
“While people use the terms ‘fetish’ and ‘kink’ interchangeably, a kink means an activity or behavior that someone enjoys that exists outside the ‘norm’ of ‘traditional’ sex. Someone’s kink may be bondage, and they may be incredibly excited when they’re tied up…or someone may have a bondage fetish, and their entire sexuality may revolve around restraint.”
Sophie Saint Thomas, allure.com, 11/1/2017
- The Science Of What Excites Kinky People Doesn’t End With Armchair Psychology
“Most general medical discourse about kink focuses on unpicking early childhood trauma, emotional disturbance or abuse (as experienced by the protagonist in Fifty Shades of Grey). … But when it comes to consensual kink, we could greatly benefit from more focus on the physical.”
Nichi Hodgson, theguardian.com, 2/14/2015
- Kinky Sex Survey Says: You’re Not As Deviant As You Think
“The overarching takeaway from this survey of about 1,500 Canadian adults is that sexual kink is incredibly common.”
Elizabeth Nolan Brown, reason.com, 11/11/2014
- A Beginner’s Guide To Kink
“So if you’ve ever thought about tearing a page out of Fifty Shades of Grey, we’re here to help.”
Kenny Thapoung, womenshealthmag.com, 6/18/2014