Gay Men

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According to the Gay and Lesbian Alliance Against Defamation at glaad.org: “There is no single lesbian, gay or bisexual lifestyle. Lesbians, gay men and bisexuals are diverse in the ways they lead their lives.”

Relationships among gay men come in many forms. To name a few, there are male/male monogamous relationships and there are male/male hookups. Some gay men are married to women and others are involved in inter-generational male/male relationships. There is no one way to define all gay males sexual lifestyles.

The sourced articles below are a sampling of the information available on the varied lifestyles of gay men, some myths, and a little history about AIDS and “coming out.”

  1. HIV Among Gay And Bisexual Men

    “In 2017, CDC awarded nearly $11 million per year for 5 years to 30 CBOs to provide HIV testing to young gay and bisexual men of color and young transgender persons of color, with the goals of identifying undiagnosed HIV infections and linking those who have HIV to care and prevention services.”

    Online Resource, cdc.gov, last updated 2/27/2018; (Broken link removed 12/2024)

  2. The History Behind Why We Say A Person ‘Came Out Of The Closet’

    “So what about that other side of the equation? It’s not clear exactly when the ‘closet’ metaphor came to be associated with the phrase ‘coming out,’ though it appears not to have been widely used before the 1960s.”

    Olivia B. Waxman, time.com, 10/11/2017

  3. It’s Been 35 Years Since Gay Men’s Health Crisis Began In Larry Kramer’s Living Room

    “The first organized gay response to AIDS started 35 years ago. The CEO of Gay Men’s Health Crisis reflects on the past and ponders the future.”

    Kelsey Louie, advocate.com, 8/11/2016

  4. Daddy Issues: The Age-Old Stigma Around Intergenerational Relationships

    “Little did I know, I’d become part of a very popular relationship trend in the gay community and was only perpetuating its stigma. The intergenerational romance is nothing new for gay men. Some look at them and see an old man with a thick wallet and a young twink with daddy issues. If you’ve been in one of these relationships, you know that’s rarely the case.”

    Glenn Garner, out.com, 6/20/2016

  5. 8 Things You Need To Know About Gay Sex, According To Science, Including Everything You’ve Ever Wondered About Anal Orgasms

    “Despite all the powerful advancements for gay rights over the past few years, the idea of gay sex is still considered to be taboo. It’s finally starting to make its way into popular TV shows such as Game of Thrones and True Blood, but so many people are still scared of talking about it. Thankfully, that, too, is starting to change.”

    Averi Clements, bustle.com, 5/19/2015

  6. Straight Women And Their Gay Husbands

    “In some of these marriages the men have told their wives from the beginning. Others have disclosed during the marriage. Before we villainize the men, let’s remember that society doesn’t allow children to explore anything other than heterosexuality.”

    Joe Kort, PhD, psychologytoday.com, 1/14/2015