• Cybersex (Internet Sex)

Cybersex is “sexual encounters that take place online, using video cams, e-mail, or instant messaging.”1 Other terms for cybersex are internet sex, computer sex, Skype sex, sexcam chats, and webcam (internet camera) sex, and it includes anything from masturbating to online porn to interacting with a stripper by webcam.

Cybersex can come with benefits (sexual gratification, fantasy role playing) and pitfalls (sex trafficking, cheating and addiction) of physical sex and the internet combined. Another benefit of Cybersex is that there is no chance of getting an STI/STD or pregnant. Another pitfall is that there are precautions to consider, such as having a cybersex session released to the public without the consent of all concerned.

Long-distance relationships can benefit from individuals being able to chat or use a webcam or smartphone-controlled sex toys to sexually stimulate the other when they are apart. Individuals can connect with a like-minded partner from an online website, sometimes for a fee, or pay someone to act out sexual fantasies.

There are many variations for engaging in cybersex among consenting adults, and authorities are cracking down on people who engage in, either virtually or as a participant, non-consensual cybersex trafficking encounters.

The sourced articles below provide information on the different forms of cybersex, and how to use the internet for consensual sexual experiences.

  1. How To Have Cyber Sex

    “Cyber sex is not an exclusive sexual activity. It’s a safe and smart add-on to your existing sexual routine. In fact, adding cyber sex to your life actually gives you some major sexual advantages.”

    Kara Kamenec, askmen.com, 7/21/2018

  2. Cheap Tech And Widespread Internet Access Fuel Rise In Cybersex Trafficking

    “The suspect is just one of thousands of people in the burgeoning industry of online sexual exploitation of children, also known as cybersex trafficking, in which pedophiles outsource rape and sexual abuse to facilitators, who then broadcast their acts on streaming video services to people around the world. The proliferation of cheap internet technology and worldwide payment systems have made it easy to set up such operations. ‘All it takes is a laptop, a webcam, an internet connection and money remittance service so you can get paid,’ said Ransom Avilla, an attaché at the U.S. Embassy in Manila for Homeland Security Investigations, a branch of Immigration and Customs Enforcement.”

    Aurora Almendral, nbcnews.com, 6/30/2018

  3. Five Types Of Cybersex User

    “So many questions come up about cybersex. What is cyber sex? What are the risks of cybersex? How can we protect children from cyberstalkers? While you might think of certain stereotypes associated with cybersex addiction, the reality is that cybersex addiction spans many demographic groups, including people of all genders and ages. While more research is needed to identify groups more accurately, there are some specific types of cybersex user we do know about. …
    [1.] Group 1: Recreational Users – Appropriate …
    [2.] Group 2: Recreational Users – Inappropriate: Like appropriate recreational users, this group of cybersex users can also access internet sex without compulsive use, but may use this material inappropriately….
    [3.] Group 3: Problematic Users — Discovery Group: This group has not had any past problems with online or other sexual behavior. They may be using the internet as a way to explore sexuality in a way that normal life has not offered them. …
    [4.] Group 4: Problematic Users — Predisposed Group: This group includes people who may have a history of fantasizing about sexual acting out, but who have never done it until accessing internet-based sexual material. …
    [5.] Group 5: Problematic Users — Lifelong Sexually Compulsive Group …”

    Elizabeth Hartney, PhD, verywellmind.com, 5/26/2018

  4. 7 ‘Golden Rules’ Of Hot, Mind-Blowing Cyber Sex

    “Here is what you must know before you go down for some cybersex of your own:
    [1.] Get a Gmail account just for cybering. …
    [2.] Find a place to play. …
    [3.] Invest in great sex toys. …
    [4.] Don’t be pushed out of your comfort zone. …
    [5.] Tell him what you want. …
    [6.] Tell him when you are climaxing and encourage him to keep talking/typing. …
    [7.] Listen to great sexy music and light candles. …”

    Angel Snow, yourtango.com, 6/6/2017

  5. How To Have Good Skype Sex, As Told By A Webcam Model

    “Back when I was single, I would dabble in Skype sex. I call this online interaction ‘Skype sex,’ because ‘cybersex’ sounds incredibly dated. … For those who long for a sexy Skype session, search no further. Here’s what you need to do: …
    [1.] Have a webcam, a mic and Skype. …
    [2.] Don’t jump right into sex. …
    [3.] Cue the toys. …
    [4.] Be safe. …
    [5.] Present your best self. …
    [6.] Play it up a bit. …
    [7.] When you climax, don’t close the window. …”

    Bobby Box, elitedaily.com, 9/12/2016

  6. Sex Column: Benefits Of Cybersex For Long-Distance Relationships

    “Here are the main reasons why virtual sex, a.k.a. cybersex is a great tool for LDRs [long-distance relationships]. …
    [1.] It keeps you connected …
    [2.] It will help you avoid frustration …
    [3.] It feels like the real deal …
    [4.] It comes in many forms …
    [5.] It will reinforce your creativity …
    [6.] It is not exclusive for LDR …”

    Trilce Ortiz, foxnews.com, 5/13/2016

  7. The 10 Best, Worst And Weirdest New Sex Toys For Long-Distance Couples

    “Here are some aids to make those Skype sessions with your significant other the highlight of your night — and some you can even use if you’re single and just looking to experience the futuristic technology sex toys can offer. …
    Vibease Smart Vibrator:
    This vibrator that fits in your underwear not only lets a partner deliver custom vibrations from anywhere in the world but also connects through Bluetooth to a library full of porn and erotica on your phone. It even pulses along with the storyline for highly realistic self-love sessions. …
    OhMiBod Remote App:
    Long-distance couples need not forgo the novelty sex toys can add to their bedroom routines — because, as usual, there’s an app for that. OhMiBod’s iOS and Android applications let users control its vibrators from any location, adding a tactile dimension to cybersex. …”

    Suzannah Weiss, papermag.com, 9/30/2015

  8. How Women Get Addicted To Cybersex

    “The study’s findings were clear: Women with a greater predisposition to becoming addicted to cybersex find Internet depictions of sexual activity more exciting and more likely to lead to cravings. Like men, women who become addicted to Internet pornography seem to do so out of a desire to achieve gratification. They don’t lack sexual activity in their lives, though they do seem to have more psychological problems. In the experiment, the pictures served as cues, similar to those that also trigger other addictive behavior, such as alcohol-related cues that trigger alcohol use.”

    Susan Krauss Whitbourne, PhD, psychologytoday.com, 8/12/2014

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Footnote

1. sciencedirect.com, 1/2019